“Well intended” is not an absolute category. When a shepherd shoots a wolf attacking his herd, and the wolf cubs consequently starve this is still well intended from the POV of the shepherd even if PETA might disagree. We all have a hierarchy of allegiances where it’s our duty to take care of those closest to us first.
Further, social standing should be a function of honor/integrity, not vice versa. When it’s the other way around, it’s a perverted society.