Many foreigners want to date a Ukrainian. Why? I don’t know. I guess most of them think of Ukrainians as a cheap, easy and pretty target that they can get their hands on. But surely there are men who genuinely fell in love with Ukrainians the ‘normal way’.
I feel I have the right to write this article because I am Ukrainian and I date a foreigner so I know the topic “from the inside”. The statements made in my article should of course be taken with a pinch of salt and are not relevant for all girls but I hope they will help some people to meet ukrainian singles.
The article is aimed at men but I would love to hear what girls think about it as well.
+ You have an advantage whilst arguing.
If you have ever learnt a foreign language you may have noticed how much more difficult it becomes to speak it when you are emotional or very tired. Arguing in a foreign language is the same. For the majority of international couples it’s the girl who follows the man, that’s why I assume you will leave abroad, not in Ukraine, therefore in your everyday life you will be speaking the language of the man rather than the Ukrainian language.
That’s why during those unfortunate moments whilst arguing you will have a huge advantage, you will be able to say quickly and clearly what you want. But remember that her not being able to express her thoughts properly and struggling to find the right words quickly may irritate your girlfriend even more. That’s why my advice is – don’t argue.
— You won’t understand her chatting to her friends.
Can you imagine how annoying it might be to not understand the conversation at the dinner table? Well imagine girls giggling to each other and saying your name from time to time and you still can’t understand them!
Be prepared for that because this is exactly how you will feel when you go to visit her family and meet her friends. They might be talking English or the language you understand in front of you but if they need to discuss something they don’t want you to undersand you will not be able to do anything about it.
+ It doesn’t matter how much you earn, she will think you are rich
Of course, it doesn’t work for all girls but the fact stays the same – the majority of Ukrainians earn less than any other European citizen. Therefore if in your country you are considered poor in Ukraine you will probably be rich. Hopefully your wealth will not become your main advantage in your girls eyes but it is definitely a big plus that you would be able to use in order to melt her heart.
— Expect to pay for her all the time
She will expect you to pay everywhere and all the time. You shouldn’t find it rude, it is just a cultural thing. She doesn’t try to use you (I hope), but it is common practice in Ukraine – boys pay in restaurants, for taxis, for any other entertainment. The rule – what is yours is ours, what is mine is mine works perfectly for Ukrainian girls and they don’t rush to change. They don’t find it disturbing or against women’s rights like some women of other European nations do. So don’t worry, you will not abuse a Ukrainian by offering to pay for her order but you might lose her respect by telling her “Men and women are equal so we pay 50:50”.
+ She will cook for you
Ukrainian dishes take a long time to cook but it is worth it. Even if you take your girlfriend to fancy restaurants or order takeaway pizza every evening there will be times when she will desperately need a proper Ukrainian soup or cutlets. Generally Ukrainians don’t like frozen or pre-cooked meals so they don’t mind spending quite some time in the kitchen for the reward of a nice meal afterwards.
Besides that the majority of Ukrainian girls were taught that the woman is responsible for cooking in the family so the chances of you going hungry are rather slim.
— Get ready to eat food from several days ago
This is the downside of the point above. It take so long to make one soup that it is not worth the time to do it every day. That’s why many people cook it once but in big portions and then eat it for several days after. Food is not wasted. The leftovers are put in the fridge, sometimes even the yolk of an egg if it wasn’t used can be found there. Some food that smells or looks spoiled for a foreigner is still edible for a Ukrainian so don’t be surprised.
+ She will try to learn your language
All Ukrainians are bilingual. Its a fact that it is easier to learn each next language therefore your girlfriend will probably learn your language quicker than you will learn hers. It will significantly simplify your life as you won’t need to go through the tough process of lessons, misunderstandings, tests and stress connected to learning a language.
But this is my advice. Just to be polite at least pretend that you are trying to learn hers or at least show your interest in it. Otherwise she might lose her motivation to learn.
— Be prepared to learn everything about politics in Ukraine
Because of the Ukrainian news in the last few years all Ukrainians from schoolchildren to pensioners know everything about politics and economy (or they think they do). They operate freely with some terms like inflation, devaluation and impeachment so if you want to follow the conversation please be ready to learn these terms too.
+ There is a belief that Ukrainians are beautiful
It is up to you to decide whether this statement is true or false and there are men with different tastes. However they say that Ukrainians are beautiful so the chance of your friends envying you and you having the girl of most mens dreams is certainly a possibility.
There is no explanation as to why Ukrainians are (or are considered to be) beautiful but part of the reason is the fact that they spend lots of time looking after themselves. And this creates the downside to this point.
— You will wait for a long time whenever you leave the house
Your girlfriend will probably want to look nice everywhere and she will really care about her hairstyle, makeup and clothes even if you are going to the forest alone to pick mushrooms. She will put her makeup on for at least 30 minutes, another 30 minutes will be spent looking for the right clothes and trying everything on and another 30 minutes on the hairstyle. Of course, not all girls are the same but this is the general tendency.
Now imagine how long she will need if you go to your friends birthday party or an important meeting at work with her? The time waiting for her to get ready is the price you pay for her prettiness so don’t moan when you meet people online.